Through all of my investigation and trying to heal myself, I found The Adult Chair®, and I’ve been able to transform my life. Now I get to help other people who are trapped behind their masks find their way back to themselves and be who they truly are from the inside out!
For me, The Adult Chair model works like this: we are this beautiful puzzle when we’re born, and then our puzzle gets scattered by the world. It’s our life’s work to find all of those beautiful pieces and love them back into place! It's taking the time to explore and understand where our fears and doubts, our unworthiness and lack of self stems from. Using the framework of this model, I can help you find those pieces, lean into the pain and love all those pieces back into place so you can turn them into strengths, self-love and happiness!
The Adult Chair® is a manual for your life.
It’s a tool that helps you feel empowered, confident and equipped with a clear roadmap to your healthiest, most authentic self. Through The Adult Chair®, you will understand how your life experiences have shaped you, give a voice to the different parts of who you are, gain greater self-awareness and respond to life in a healthy way.
Your inner child forms between ages zero and seven, and it is the foundation of your true feelings and needs. The inner child is deeply vulnerable, which makes it the source of deep, connected relationships. It is also where early wounding can occur, which shapes our view of the world as we grow up. When seated in the Child Chair, we find creativity, passion, spontaneity, trust and intimacy.
The Child Chair
In adolescence, you begin to develop your own identity and realize that you are separate and unique from the world around you. As the ego forms, so does the desire to protect yourself, whether the daggers are real or imagined. When seated in the Adolescent Chair, we become perfectionist, judgmental and controlling, and we develop a mask to hide our authentic selves from a world that seems cold and rejecting. Most of us live from this place until we awake and decide we are ready to change.
The Adolescent Chair
The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair represents your highest self: living in the present moment, dealing with facts and truth over stories and assumptions and being able to set boundaries from a place of patience and compassion. While seated in the Adult Chair, we can deeply connect with our inner child’s needs and feelings and objectively observe our adolescent’s behaviors. It is here, and only here, that we can become aware of—and overcome—the emotional triggers and negative patterns that hold us back.
